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Laura Lindsay's avatar

I can completely relate to Gardener's Guilt. I only recently came to understand the peat issue (thanks to Gardeners World), but finding alternatives over here is more difficult. We reuse plastic pots that come to us via garden centre purchases, but we have also laid in our own supplies that are not as environmentally friendly as I now wish they were.

Use of native plants is another guilt-inducing aspect of gardening. I don't know if this is a hot topic over your way. I've seen it bring out the worst in people on social media. Some seem to believe the only "good" garden is 100% native (often unrealistic), and will excoriate someone for choosing a non-native.

Personally, I appreciate becoming more educated on these subjects so I can change my practices, but I'm not going to throw out everything I already have and start fresh!

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Sarah Miller's avatar

Love this, Dan. I found you via Boaz's newsletter and am heartened to find a fellow geranium hater 😊

My husband lost his mind when our children started messing with "his" garden -- particularly when they picked all the native plants he'd so carefully and tenderly cultivated, still in their infancy and prone to damage. I am... not the gardener in the family and thus am not as attached, but also understood his unwillingness to let them pick (even sometimes destroy, in the innocent way of little kids) his plants and flowers.

We solved this, mostly, by planting a children's garden -- we helped them pick out seed mixes (developed for as many blooms as possible), involved them in preparing the beds and planting, then let them go whole hog when everything came up. They also help with -- and pick whatever they want -- in the vegetable garden.

Neither solves every problem but both solved a lot of them, and now that they are older and understand better why they need to leave certain plants alone (so the plants can grow and flourish, not because Daddy is being unreasonable), they take great pride in their garden and spend many happy hours literally *in* it, under and amongst all the blooms, lost in imaginative play and always ending with picking a huge bouquet for the dinner table.

Does it look perfect? Lord no. It's the first bed you see when you arrive in our driveway, and it is the garden equivalent of a long-haired woman's wind-blown hair after a high-speed ride on a motorcycle, but, who cares? They are only little for a short period of time and we have the rest of our lives (and the rest of our yard) to build tidier gardens. It's 100% worth it.

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